Projecting feelings on to others

Working with Dream Figures: Taking Back Our Projections on Other People

Projecting feelings on to others

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It is very common to dream about friends, family members and any other type of person we come into contact in the waking world.  Sometimes, these people can greatly affect us either in negative or positive ways such as generating within us feelings of extreme loathing, fear, passionate longing or intense admiration.

It is important to know that how these people affect us in waking life and what they mean to us are often projections of what those people mean to us in dream time—often an phenomenon that may or may not be true, and may not all reflect who those people really are.

Dreamwork Can Make Us Aware of Projections

One of the great advantages of working with dreams is to help make us conscious of the projections we place on other people.  If we are aware that what we think or how we view a person may be a projection that should be investigated, we are removing one more blind spot in our field of awareness and allowing another person’s true self to speak to us.

A Useful Dreamwork Method:  Viewing Everything in the Dream as Part of Myself

The dreamwork method of first viewing everything in the dream as part of me allows to me reflect on what each person in the dream means to me.  Seeing each person as representing a type of energy within myself allows me to ask questions why this person generates strong negative and positive feelings, especially when I see how this dream person interacts with other parts of myself in the dream.  I can begin to see a very lively drama that may have very little to do with what is going on outside and has a lot to say what is happening within me.  I then may be able to view the person outside in a different light, and with more objectivity.

Unfortunately, for those who do not do dreamwork or even remember their dreams, they can be subject to being driven by unrecognized energies operating in dream time.  In other words, it is like they are being programmed and don’t even know it.

Integrating the Kundalini Experience into Christian Practice

Christianizing Kundalini

The Cross and the Seven Chakras

A kundalini awakening, the release of the primal life force or mother energy, from the base of the spine and moving upward to the brain, is a human phenomenon experienced by some throughout the world but only fully recognized and studied in the Hindu culture as a process of spiritual transformation.   Therefore, when it happens to non-Hindus, it can be a confusing, troubling and even devastating event wreaking havoc in people’s lives, especially in those who do not seek out the awakening or understand its profound spiritual, emotional and physical meanings.   Moreover, kundalini is often misunderstood or misdiagnosed by doctors and psychologists, adding more suffering to those who live with often varied, bizarre and intense symptoms following the experience.

For a devout traditional Christian who finds out what has happened to him or her, it can be even more shocking because the experience is not articulated, promoted or condoned in the Bible or Christian teachings.  A reading of the lives of the saints, however, will tell us that many saints experienced kundalini symptoms on their spiritual journeys.

“Christianizing” Kundalini

A kundalini event, and the changed life that comes after, can be integrated into Christian practice and can greatly inform and aid the believer in spiritual, psychological and physical healing.   When kundalini energy works in the body, it works at the cellular level to cleanse the body of everything that doesn’t belong there—from negative thought patterns to illnesses of every sort.  It is a matter of believing something profound is going on and accepting a process that can at times be painful and disconcerting.  The ego’s defenses weaken by its onslaught, and eventually wear away.   What can the Christian do to bring this process into a Christian framework?

  • Many spiritual gifts will come with this event such as visions and the ability to see auras. Use these gifts to help you along.  For example, when my kundalini energy opened, I had a vision of Jesus standing by me, bringing peace to me during those first frightening symptoms such as intense migraines.  I knew instinctively that something spiritual was happening to me.  I was not “sick.”  I also received the gift to intuitively diagnose physical conditions.  I was told in dreamtime to use this whenever I encountered strange sensations in my body.
  • Therefore, If Jesus or a saint or angel appears, pray to this spiritual being to be your guide in working with the energy so that you may be transformed into the person you are meant to become. Your spiritual guide will provide guidance and support.
  • Pray using energy and healing concepts that blend Hindu and Christian beliefs, if you feel comfortable doing it. An example is my version (others have done something similar) of the Lord’s Prayer, written to show how the points of the prayer coincide with the seven chakras, or energy centers, of Hindu teachings.  Click here to see sample.
  • Do dreamwork by
    • Keeping a dream journal and reflecting on the dreams recorded. Dreams will let you know much about the purpose and the process of your kundalini experience.  They will let you know of the ups and downs, the flow of the energy and the progress you have made in working with the energy.  Also this website contains a number of articles on working with kundalini energy such as Symbols for Kundalini Energy in Dreams: Volcanoes.  Click on “Kundalini in Dreams” under the Topic menu to your left to find these articles as well as other related blogs in “Dreamwork and Christian Practice.”
    • Before going to bed, prayerfully request a dream that will guide you by asking for a certain dream to resolve a specific, stated issue related to the kundalini.

Read about others’ experiences.  I highly recommend a book by Philip St. Romain called Kundalini Energy and Christian Spirituality that describes not only his efforts to deal with the energy but also his attempts to integrate his understanding of this energy into Christian theology.  I have written a short online book digest for this book called Pioneering Christian Kundalini that can be found at The Intuitive-Connections Network website by clicking here.

Bringing Dreamwork into Religious Practice

Jacob's Dream

Jacob’s Dream. Image via Pinterest.

Just like prayer and meditation, working with dreams is a method of spiritual practice because dreams are spiritual in nature in that they speak for the soul.  Just by doing the exercise of recording and reflecting upon our dreams, we are connecting with the spiritual aspect of ourselves.

If we seriously practice a religion, the spiritual practice of dreamwork can be made part of our religious experience by 1) using prayer as part of our intentional dreaming and 2) by referring to the Bible or some other holy writing when we reflect upon the meaning of our dreams. 

Intentional Dreaming

Intentional dreaming is requesting a specific insight, solution or healing from a dream.  This is a very ancient practice that has often been connected to religion.  This practice can be done today by praying to Jesus, God or some other spiritual figure to provide guidance and help with our request before we go to bed at night.

Referring to the Bible or Other Inspired Writing

We can work with the Bible or other holy book to help us understand our dreams.  The Hawaiians have a practice of praying about an important dream to ask for guidance in interpreting the dream.  Then, they open the Bible to a random place and read the passage that presents itself.  They look for a correlation or some inspiration to come based on a combination of the dream and the passage.

Another way of tying dreams to the Bible is to look at the symbols in the dream.  Many symbols in important dreams are also symbols found in the Bible.  For example, I once dreamed of a chair in my living room that had caught fire and burned but did not burn up.  It reminded me of the Burning Bush in the Old Testament.  I reflected on the meaning of the Burning Bush in the Bible as a sign of God’s presence to Moses and wondered if this wasn’t telling me that something numinous was happening in my own life!  Sure enough, a strong and new energy soon came into my life which redirected my spiritual journey.

Still another way of understanding dreams as they relate to the Bible is to learn from any of the many biblical passages where holy people used dreams for inspiration and guidance.  The story of Joseph in the Old Testament and the story of Joseph, the husband of Mary, come to mind as people who relied on dreams to shape their lives.  We can observe how they worked with dreams and do as they did.  Try these practices and see how they enliven your dream and waking life!

Catharsis and Atonement As Seen in Dreams

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Yesterday I had an interesting conversation with a Reiki healer who made the comment that her clients often experienced vivid dreams after she did a healing on them.

I began thinking about this and saw that this was only natural–perfectly in keeping with what dreams are all about.  One of the many purposes of dreams is to show us what is going on inside us, so a healing process, no matter if it is physical, emotional or spiritual will be reflected. 

Reiki healing works with the universal energy around us and the body’s own energy field.  I have always observed that dreams reflect through symbol and story the working of energy within us and the energy coming from outside of us.  So if there is a significant shift in energy this will be seen in dreams of catharsis and atonement, catharsis meaning a purging of negative emotions and atonement meaning a bringing back into a state of at-one-ment, or wholeness. 

Dreams of Catharsis

In terms of symbols catharsis may be expressed in dreams related to the bathroom such as toilet dreams, of having to urinate or defecate, of needing to take a bath or shower–or actually doing these things.

Dreams of Atonement

Atonement, or the process of realignment to one’s true self, may be expressed in dreams of being at a barber or hairdresser’s where one’s hair is being redone expertly by a professional in the business, of being coached or of being forgiven.

A successful catharsis and atonement may be reflected in bright lights in dreams, either coming from or through the dreamer, or dreaming that such a light passes through a symbol for the self such as a Christmas Tree.  However it is symbolized, it is powerful.  Have you seen your Day of Atonement in dreams?

Can We Make the Term Priestess Respectable?

A prietess is a woman who helps others connect to the divine.

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While surfing on Pinterest I saw a definition of priestess and realized that I am truly one, along with some amazing ladies I know.  It is what I have been attempting to do ever since I began teaching dreamwork and meditation years ago.  Here is the definition:

A priestess is a woman who helps others connect to the divine so that they can heal and/or actualize their soul’s path.

I have found it interesting that women priests in the Episcopal Church are called priests and not priestess.  Perhaps the term resonates with witchcraft, and the wild things beyond the control of civilized constructs such as organized religion.  For sure, the term is connected to what the Hawaiians would call mana, or power.  Such power, no matter if it is a force of nature, or a force of our own souls or the force of a divine power, is indeed outside the control of humans.  Yet, this energy is what drives real spiritual enlightenment, healing, growth and conversion.  It is what religion is truly all about.   In resurrecting the term priestess, we can perhaps also bring back, or let back in again, the sacred life-giving energy that is needed to rejuvenate a person or a congregation.

I think all great priests, men or women, truly act out their calling when they serve this sacred function of connecting people to the divine, especially in a highly personal way such as attending to the needs of a dying person, doing spiritual direction, or healing a community conflict in such a way that it brings out the best in everyone.   However, nowadays,  sadly, emphasis is usually put elsewhere so that people are first more readily to identify priests as the performers of rituals and homilies that may or may not inspire and functionaries of religious organizations, not much different from a corporate CEO.   No wonder people, so many people, have a hard time finding life in a church!

All people hunger for an experience of the sacred.  Perhaps it will take priestesses to do the job, if the priests (male and female) don’t measure up to the job.  If this is the case, organized religion perhaps can expect to see a decline in attendance.

A Source of Spiritual Insight: The Appearance of Animals in Dreams and Intuitive Insight

Jesus likening himself to a mother hen

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The animal-human relationship has had a big influence in human psychological development. One way this can be seen is the deep attachment and communication that can happen between a pet owner and the pet. Even with animals in the wild, humans have long looked on magnificent and tiny creatures and wondered at their various gifts such as speed, flight, cunning or strength. It is no wonder that animals often appear in our dreams or intuitive insight. Perhaps we are either being given, or given insight, into that animal’s energy to meet a particular challenge of the moment. It is no wonder that ancient people worshiped animals. They wanted the particular energy associated with that animal to face the tasks ahead so they called upon the spirit of that animal to help them.

Even Jesus recognized the special energy that each animal exhibits. In Luke 13:34 he resonates with the deep caring nature of the mother hen as he compared himself to that humble bird who gathers who her brood under her wings. He could have compared himself to a grand animal of any sort like an eagle or a horse. Instead, he feels great compassion for his people and wants to protect them from the many dangers. Perhaps he is calling on this energy within himself for the tasks lying ahead for him.

Notice when an animal appears in your dreams or meditation. Ask yourself what energies you associate with that animal and then ask why you might need this energy at this time in your life. As a follow-through, try to act with the energy of that animal to meet the challenge facing you.

Dreams Help Heal Grief

One of the many healing functions of dreams is to reconcile or heal the profound pain of the loss of a loved one. The grieving process is helped along by insights that come with dreams as well as the actual visit of a loved in a dream that quite often conveys a message of comfort or helpful information.

For example, the night that my mother died, I dreamed that she came to me and said she now understood me in a way she hadn’t before, and she could see how special I was. This was a comforting surprise to me because while I understood that she loved me and accepted me; I always had the nagging feeling she didn’t really know where I was coming from. While we spent a lot of time together and got along peaceably together, she was not a talker and I usually didn’t bring up subjects that would make her even more reticent.

It is true that we were very different personalities. She was German-American haus-frau who was devoted to family, giving up her nursing career after she married. She expressed her love in what she did for us. I, on the other hand, was a career woman all of my life expressing my love in creative work such as writing and teaching. She often wondered why I never got married–even when I told her I stayed single because I had taken her advice of not settling for anything less than the best! The best just never came my way.

Having this dream made me feel that my relationship with her was now complete. There were no more loose strings or vague musings about what might have been. What dreams helped you resolve any issues with a person who has passed?

Working with Emotional Energy Hooks in Dreams

Dreams Can Warn about manipulation

Recognizing the Emotional Hook in Dreams

Have you ever felt that someone was trying to “hook” you in making a particular response by making appreciative comments or gestures that subtly projected a threat if you did not comply with what this person wanted?

We all want to be loved, appreciated or complimented. However when someone sends a signal of so-called love or appreciation that contains a hidden hook, watch out!  It is easy to be snared and the gesture may be interpreted as “that person really admires or likes me.”  Actually, what is really being sent is the message that “I want to control you.” Sometimes, only your gut or dreams will know the answer when this person is a proficient manipulator.

Dreams Get below the Surface, See the Threat and Provide Solutions

One of the great advantages of being in tune with dreams is that our dreams can see through any phony affection that attempts to dominate. Also, they can alert us when we might be vulnerable to manipulation by this form of control because some of our own internal archetypes need healing.

Recently, I had the experience of someone trying to control my actions. This person sent me a most charming and affectionate email requesting that I be at a certain gathering.  I was not attending—something I had already talked about with this person. However, as soon as I got the email, I didn’t feel missed or appreciated. I felt an icky feeling that was the warning this person had tried to “hook” me. I checked my response out with an astute and emotionally intelligent friend who agreed there was a hook in that email. I began to think it wasn’t my imagination.

The experience recalled to me a dream I had just had of this email sender aiming a big ray gun at me. The icky feeling I had in the dream was just this icky feeling I got when I got the email, making me realize I had been “x-rayed” with a bolt of negative energy. Later, I was blessed with another dream that gave advice on how to deal with this person: in groups and never alone. So now, I do group emails with this person and am never alone dealing with this person.

With Dreams, Inner Often Equals Outer

The dream of the ray gun made me realize that person had awakened an archetype of negative energy within me that could harm me if left gone unchecked. Essentially, a part of me could hurt another part. My dream of dealing with this person in groups inspired me to enlist the help of all the wise and good parts of myself and my spiritual guides to help dealing with this potentially self-destructive energy within myself.

For more information on dreams and intuition, see my website at http://www.healingdreamgarden.com.

Do You Need to Communicate Well with the Inner Self to Work with Dreams?

Recently, someone on my email list sent me a question asking if you needed to be at an advanced stage of communicating with the self in order to work with dreams.  It is an interesting question in that you would think that a neophyte might run into all sorts of problems when trying to work with those amazing and sometimes frightening messages that come to us from our deep inner self.  However, psychologists have long noticed that dreams only tell us what we are ready to hear.  We are always protected and will be given only what we can deal with.  So it really doesn’t matter what stage of personal growth you at, a beginner on the journey inward or a seasoned traveler, you will be cared for appropriately by the dreaming mind.  One of the positive messages about nightmares is that even though they might be scary, they are letting the dreamer know this is something the dreamer can handle!

What is Necessary to Work with Dreams: An Open Mind and Trusting Heart

Generally, being willing to work seriously with dreams over an extended period of time requires a certain level of comfort and curiosity with the unknown and emerging sides of one’s self.  After one sees that this emerging content in dreams is healing on all levels of mind, body and spirit, one gains even greater confidence and trust in the process.  This is what eventually enables a person to experience a great deal of growth through dreamwork.  I attribute my kundalini awakening in 2007 to the many years of my dreams preparing me for the experience.  I certainly give credit to my dreams for guiding me and keeping me sane in the transforming process of the kundalini clearings! Through dreamwork, you learn to ask questions of dreams and get responses. As a result, after several years of working with dreams, you will find that you can indeed communicate well with the inner self, no matter where you started at the beginning!

Dreams and Intuitive Meditation Can Monitor the Ebb and Flow of Kundalini Energy

St. Michael as an expression of healing energy.

St. Michael the Archangel
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In an earlier blog, Dreams Can Forecast a Kundalini Event, I wrote that dreams can foretell the oncoming of a kundalini event. While this is important to prepare the recipient for the significant life changes that will then take place on the spiritual, psychological and physical levels, I think an even greater service dreams can do is to monitor the ebb and flow of kundalini and give clues to how the energy is working in the body and what parts of the body are being affected—especially when the energy is strong and is making dramatic or frightening expressions, such as in repeated migraines, loose bowels or weird jerking actions.

As Patricia Garfield demonstrated in The Healing Power of Dreams, dreams can provide information on the stages of health such as the onset, expression and healing of a disease. After observation many dreams over a number of years, I found this observation can also be applied to the stages of kundalini and its ebbs and flow, allowing me to generally know what to expect from the energy. For example, a common dream that prepares me for a kundalini clearing indicating negative energy will soon be released is a dream of a need to use the bathroom. To illustrate, a short while back I knew I would be taking on additional work and study responsibilities. However, before that could happen, I had a dream that told me I had some kundalini clearing work to do.

Dream

I am sitting at a table backstage with my mother. I am waiting to go on stage in front of an audience. My mother tells me that before I go on stage, I need to go to the bathroom.

Shortly after this dream, I began a long period of strong clearing of negative energy. In addition to the ramp up of energy I felt on a daily basis, I experienced building migraines that released by sending energy and warmth throughout my body. Often these releases would be accompanied by strong but passing emotions of fear, anger or sadness.

Intuitive Meditation Can Also Be Useful for Monitoring Kundalini

I may also do an intuitive meditation if I want an immediate answer to what is causing a weird physical sensation. For example, I felt a curious pain on the left side of my head and decided to do an intuitive meditation to ask what was causing this. After settling in and connecting to my heart center, the vision of St. Michael the Archangel, a protecting and healing angel, appeared looking very much like the image above. It was an amazing shock but it did remind me of a powerful dream I had several years ago of an angel removing pieces of shit from the left side of my head by picking it out through my ear! Realizing what was going on, I then had the feeling I was in good hands and could relax into the process of letting the migraine do its work of releasing negative energy.