Why Can’t I Remember My Dreams?

When I talk about dreams as being important to our well-being and that it is very healthy to work with and remember dreams, perhaps the most common question is:  Why Can’t I Remember My Dreams?”

There are many possible answers to this question and here or some to consider:

  1. No one told you how important dreams are so at some point in your life, perhaps as a small child, you chose to ignore them. Often parents will tell a child who has just woken up from a nightmare that it was “Just a dream!” and ignore the significance of it, sending a message to the child that dreams are not to be discussed, valued or remembered. As a result, at an early age, you may have made a habit of forgetting them.   A better parenting approach would be to listen to the child’s dream and explore his/her feelings around the dream in a non-judgmental manner, giving a message to the child that something important just happened that he or she can learn from.
  2. Our society values the day dreams but not the night dreams. Western society always encourages people to follow their dreams, i.e., the stuff of their fantasy such as the “dream job” or the “dream house” but it rarely encourages anyone to write down their night dreams or try to resolve issues in those dreams.  In some sects of Christianity, dreams are even thought to be the work of the devil—so unlike traditional societies where dreams were highly valued and heeded.
  3. Some dreams can be frightening, illogical and outlandish so it is often easier to just forget about them than to try to understand them. Dreams tend to run counter the logical, predictable ways of the waking rational mind, often presenting challenges many people either don’t want to face or find irrelevant to the demands of their lives.   Dreams will quite often question the dreamer on how her or she is living their life and this can be troublesome.
  4. Do you get enough sleep to dream? Studies have shown that you need to enter a deep sleep in order to dream.  Dreams that we remember usually occur when we are coming out of the deep sleep stage.  Sometimes they can come just before we enter that stage, making the dream hard to remember.   If you do not get enough sleep, chances are that your body is not going through the stages it needs in order to produce dreams you will remember.  You may not have remained in the post-deep sleep stage long enough for a dream to form.  This is very likely if you are habitually awakened by an alarm clock, rather than allowing yourself to come awake naturally.

Working with Dream Themes: Meeting the Trump in Each of Us

Donald Trump

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Whether we know or acknowledge it or not, we all have a little bit of Donald Trump inside each one of us.  Perhaps that is a reason why our current president has riled up so many people on both sides of the political fence.  They say that in each one of us is a universe populated by everyone and everything in the external world, where figures of energy propel us as much as they do in the outer world.  How we relate to the exterior world is a reflection of how we relate to our internal world.  The internal archetype of energy called Donald Trump seems to evoke a lot of energy both within and outside of us.

Dreams Are a Great Way to Meet Figures of Our Internal World

Have you met your internal Donald Trump?  If you are aware of your dreams and remember them, you may have already met Trump in dreamtime.  On Facebook someone posted a picture showing a dream image he had of Donald Trump.   It was of a reticent and scared toddler wearing a “Make America Great Again” baseball cap.  This graphic image not only told us a lot about this man’s view of Trump but also something perhaps of Trump’s true nature.

Yesterday, I had a dream about Donald Trump.  He was sitting on a chair in my backyard, not my real backyard, but the backyard of my house in dreamtime, giving me a clue this was in the backyard of my psyche and not the external world.  He had a comforter on his lap which was decorated with pictures of himself.  He was also wearing house slippers that looked uncomfortably like the ones I wear in waking life, again giving me clues to how this internal Trump shapes my outward behavior.  He likes being comfy at home like I do with things reflecting me and my tastes, yet reminding me to make sure I don’t make too much of that need for comfort to the point of extravagance!  A bit later in the dream, I ran into him sitting behind the counter of a post office, again not a real post office near me in waking life, but the post office of dreamtime and my psyche—a place where communications are moved to and fro internally.  This dream might be telling me powerful energy resides from where I communicate.  It may be also be telling me that I need to watch this archetype of energy to make sure it doesn’t do crazy things like the waking-life Donald Trump does!

At least in my dream, Donald Trump isn’t acting outrageously like grabbing Pootsie, my cat who doesn’t like strangers to get a hold of her, nor is he trying to manipulate me.  He is just there, someone to be watched.

How does your internal Trump fare and how is his energy driving you?  Your dreams will tell…

Working with Dream Themes: Being Led by a Woman

Being led by a woman.

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Being led by a woman in a dream was one of the search topics that led a person to my blog so I decided to write a bit on this topic.

Being led by someone suggests that whatever energy this person represents is the energy that is leading the dreamer somewhere.  Whenever one has a dream about someone leading them, as asking questions like “What does this person mean to me?” And “Why would this person be leading me?” need to be done because this person, real or imaginary, is exerting great influence on the dreamer.

If the dreamer often has dreams of being led by a man and then suddenly has dreams where he or she is being led by a woman, this would indicate masculine energy such as the drive to act rationally, compete, excel or succeed has been replaced by a feminine energy.  Feminine energy often includes such traits as acting intuitively, being inclusive, all-embracing, forgiving, etc.  This shift in being led could well represent an aspect of the quest for wholeness in the dreamer, signifying a new area of growth.

Many women (and men, too) who have developed their masculine side with a strong career may experience these dreams later in life as they sense the need to develop the feminine side of their natures.  This kind of drive may find expression in new pursuits with a nurturing or intuitive creative bent such as artistic hobbies, care-giving, mentoring, etc.

For a woman, this kind of dream may also mean that the woman needs to learn such things as taking better care of herself, nurturing herself, standing her ground, trusting her feminine instincts, supporting other women, and understanding what it means to be a woman’s woman.  This is all part of the Heroine’s Journey.  Please click here for an excellent free guide for the lady on such a journey: http://annedavin.com/heroines-journey-trail-guide/.

A Great Short Video on the Meaning and Necessity of Empathy

As opposed to ESP which is the ability to pick up information “out there” that is not available to the five senses (such a correctly determining what shirt a person will wear tomorrow,) intuition is based on the ability to understand what is going on with another person in a broader and deeper holistic fashion such as picking up on their emotions, viewpoint, history, experiences, etc.  Empathy is an extenuation of intuition in that because one is intuitive, one can put oneself in the shoes of the other person and “know” what that person is going through.  One can feel compassion for that person and will feel more compelled to help that person.  It is a quality that all people in the helping professions need and one we all could develop.

Our culture does a great job in teaching kids to be competitive but does little to teach empathy.  It is no wonder why there is so much behavior manifested that is based on struggling against one another rather than working together to help one another.

I highly recommend you see this short video on the meaning and necessity of empathy at this link: lifehac.kr/C2ePfNa

 

Projecting feelings on to others

Working with Dream Figures: Taking Back Our Projections on Other People

Projecting feelings on to others

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It is very common to dream about friends, family members and any other type of person we come into contact in the waking world.  Sometimes, these people can greatly affect us either in negative or positive ways such as generating within us feelings of extreme loathing, fear, passionate longing or intense admiration.

It is important to know that how these people affect us in waking life and what they mean to us are often projections of what those people mean to us in dream time—often an phenomenon that may or may not be true, and may not all reflect who those people really are.

Dreamwork Can Make Us Aware of Projections

One of the great advantages of working with dreams is to help make us conscious of the projections we place on other people.  If we are aware that what we think or how we view a person may be a projection that should be investigated, we are removing one more blind spot in our field of awareness and allowing another person’s true self to speak to us.

A Useful Dreamwork Method:  Viewing Everything in the Dream as Part of Myself

The dreamwork method of first viewing everything in the dream as part of me allows to me reflect on what each person in the dream means to me.  Seeing each person as representing a type of energy within myself allows me to ask questions why this person generates strong negative and positive feelings, especially when I see how this dream person interacts with other parts of myself in the dream.  I can begin to see a very lively drama that may have very little to do with what is going on outside and has a lot to say what is happening within me.  I then may be able to view the person outside in a different light, and with more objectivity.

Unfortunately, for those who do not do dreamwork or even remember their dreams, they can be subject to being driven by unrecognized energies operating in dream time.  In other words, it is like they are being programmed and don’t even know it.

My new blog on a call for Spirituality: Three Women at the Tomb

Justifying one's own behavior

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Recent political events have made me question how a so many voters in a so-called Christian country could vote for a candidate who is more unprepared, unqualified, unsuited and uniformed than any presidential candidate in our nation’s history.  I can understand the need for change, a need for a new way of doing things.  But why didn’t they select a candidate who represented the highest of their hopes and spiritual ideas, and not the worst of their prejudices and fears?  I was stunned that so many people were willing to compromise principle in this election.  That is very similar to the rise of Adolph Hitler.  Does the end justify the means?  Apparently so, just as it did in the worst of the fascist and communist purges.

One has to ask why so many so-called Christians voted this way in the US and in pre-war Germany.  Was it the way they were trained in the Christian faith to be faithful servants to an organization and not to Jesus himself?  Jesus was a radical who was opposed to violence and treated everyone equally.  He was against the accumulation of wealth. It is no wonder the pope sent such an urgent reminder to President Trump.

When Christian Americans were voting, where was the spiritual depth to see that HOW WE DO THINGS IS AS IMPORTANT AS GETTING ORGANIZED AND GETTING THINGS DONE? The soul is in the how, not in the doing.  I have started a new blog that issues a call to get spirituality as found in the true model of Jesus out of the shadows and bring it front and center to shine real light on Christian action.  Please visit my blog https://3womenatthetomb.wordpress.com/.

Dreams of Spiritual Transformation

Symptoms of Spiritual Awakening

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Big changes in life are usually easy to detect.  We all recognize when there is a need to change a job, or a desire to get married.  There are external and internal catalysts that tell us it’s time to make a change.   We no longer feel the job is right for us or we meet a special person who awakens new and wondrous feelings.  We go ahead and make the decisions that set in place the change, and change happens.   We get a new job or we get married.   Our lives are transformed.   We judge the success of the change by the outcome of the new job or marriage.

Monitoring Spiritual Transformation is Often Not So Simple

On the spiritual level, the need to make a change, as well as the ability to monitor the success and degree of change is often a lot more subtle, and may take years to notice if we lead a busy, work-filled lifestyle.  The catalysts for spiritual change, especially the profound and life altering changes at the soul level, such as the need to live for a deeper reason, or a loss of feeling comfortable with the way things are can bring on rich, insightful, and even guiding dreams that help one through the often difficult challenges and obstacles that happen later in the process of spiritual transformation.  Dreams help us get prepared for the shift at the soul level.

Dreamwork Helps Monitor Spiritual Change

Doing dreamwork over a long period of time has many advantages, and one of them is the ability to see one’s own spiritual transformation take place before one’s eyes, over a period of time, presently or imminently—before it actually manifests in waking life.  This can be especially helpful if one is going through a long, dark period when no glimmer of hope for change seems so on the horizon.

This transformation can be seen in dreams by symbols and stories of change.  A symbols doesn’t have to be obviously spiritual or religious, but the dreamer will make the association if it is.   An important symbol in the dream may actually morph and change shape, showing the type of transformation that will take place.  A process taking place in the dream may symbolize what the dreamer will go through.  Voices may actually tell the dreamer that change has taken place, or will take place.

I am reminded of a recent dream I had where I parked my car and walked off, only to return to find that my old car had morphed into an amazing new car that had a special feel to it.  Someone in the dream scene told me that I had parked my car in a “zone of transformation” so that caused the car to be transformed!  Previously in the past couple of years, I had dreams of my old car having brake and tire problems—even being blown up, all of which seem to reflect the many spiritual challenges I faced at this time that related to making my way through life.  This transformational dream related to my car certainly lets me know that all those challenges are leading to change!

Happy New Year!

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This blog is nearing its 10,000th view so I wanted to take this opportunity to thank all the subscribers and viewers who have seen it over the past several years.  Daily readership has slowly tripled, thanks to you!

2017 is the year of the Rooster according to the Chinese calendar.  May your year be full of good blessings and insightful dreams!

Dreamwork: A Good Way to Get to Know the Whole Self

Dreamwork helps integrate all sides of the self.

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One of the many benefits of remembering, recording and working with dreams is that it allows one a deep and profound window into the workings of the soul: one can see some of the many parts of the self which are often hidden, or in shadow, to the waking mind.  It is a challenging undertaking but one that is indeed worth the effort of ongoing dreamwork.

We know that ignorance, misconceptions and lack of understanding all contribute to fear and evil.  But more than any of these contributors to negative energy is our own ignorance of our unique blind spots.  We like to think of ourselves as good or aligned with the good, making us often unable to see the evil in ourselves–or if we catch a glimpse of it, we often justify our negative actions by rationalizing that it serves a good purpose.   Very few people who do evil believe they are doing evil.  It is no wonder that the Buddha said ignorance is the root of all evil and Jesus asked the Father to forgive his executioners on the grounds that they didn’t know what they were doing.

The reality is that people who are not in touch with their deep inner selves will more likely be driven by inner forces, good or bad, in a way that leaves them pre-programmed like a computer, unable to act in an enlightened and choice-filled way.  Dreamwork allows one to get to know those forces in a safe and conscious manner, and make better, conscious choices when strong energy comes on.

Catching Glimpses of the Whole Self

A dream will often present a many-faceted story with a variety of characters, symbols and energies.  This rich panorama is giving the dreamer glimpses into the many sides of the soul, and the archetypes that are animating the person.

Working with a dream as if everything thing and every feeling in it represents a part of one’s self or one’s own energy is a way of owning and acknowledging that there is good and evil and other opposing voices residing within—all of which want recognition. By prayerfully reflecting on, and encouraging each thing or person in the dream to have a say in what’s happening in one’s life at the moment, one can go far in integrating all aspects of the psyche into a creative and functioning whole.   In this way, evil is not acted out unreflectively or in ignorance, and the good within is not blindly projected onto others who don’t deserve it.

The person has a choice to act or not because he or she is aware that the strong energy is there, and what it can do:  he or she has already seen it and the results of its working in dreamtime.  This person is then better equipped to use such strong energy in a productive and creative way, rather than a destructive, driven, “devil made me do it” way.

Wishing all my readers a Merry Christmas and a Joyous New Year!

A Christmas Dream

Christmas Tree

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Around the holidays it is often common to have dreams that reflect this special time of the year. Here is a dream I had the other night. I call it a Christmas Dream.

I am in a beautiful house filled with wonderful Christmas lights and decorations. There is only one room on the second floor that needs some decoration. I bring a decorated Christmas Tree into the room and place it by the fireplace.

This is a peaceful, hopeful dream–one that is opposite in tone and feeling from what I am feeling day to day. It is reminding me that at a deep level, there is Christmas peace and light. So I just need to slow down and enjoy the season!  The to-do work is mostly done.

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all!  And have a very merry dream of the season.